The American Geisha Must Be Selective: How to pick a man

No matter how you've met a man, the first thing you want to do is try to ascertain whether he has the potential to be a Good Man for you. If he seems to have that potential, you absolutely would be open to seeing him further. If he seems not to have that potential, it is best not to see him further, unless seeing him further would open good communal networking opportunities for you.

Remember always to be frank and honest and nonmanipulative and kind to the men you encounter while dating. Don't lead on an inappropriate man once you comprehend he is not a candidate for a longer-term connection with you.

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You must also select thought about from among the men you attract. You waste time dating a man who has puny or no potential to be a Good Man for you. Not only that, but your image may suffer from dating inappropriate men, possibly discouraging other men from getting to know you, possibly along with a man who may have been right for you.

Let's say that a man you meet at a bookstore coffee shop asks you out for dinner. According to whether or not he seems to have some Good Man potential, you could retort him in one of some ways.

If you judge fast (or after a forty-five-minute chat) that there is whether no potential or so puny potential that you do not want to invest any further time, you want to discourage him. You might respond, "Thank you, that's sweet of you. But I can't." If he persists (which he probably won't), say truthfully, "I'm just not ready right now. It's been nice to meet and to talk with you." Do not touch him and do not be your most fun, likable self. After all, you want to discourage him.

The American Geisha Must Be Selective: How to pick a man